Do you ever just feel lost? Right now everything is changing around me and I’m feeling very lost as to what to do next. My dad got a job in Oklahoma in July and so has been living down there but my mom has been living up here while trying to sell their house. All of us knew selling their house would be a challenge as they living in a dying town of 500 people and their house was built in the 1800’s. We all felt horrible that my mom was playing the visit my dad and then come back up here but yet my family enjoyed that she was still here. With her being here she still played a major role in my daughters life and in mine. She was around if we needed a babysitter, if we needed help with anything, or just when there was a concert or something that we wanted her to attend. Yes we were selfish but with her being the last family of mine to still be in Minnesota I wanted someone here. I wanted someone here for holidays, for summer outings, for shopping with. I’m not one who goes out and socializes easily and family has always been extremely important to me so I enjoyed having my parents nearby. So anyways in December, they got 2 offers on the house, one with an inspection and one without. They jumped on the one without and are now officially planning on moving January 24th. I spent my last night visiting their house last weekend. It was hard.
Now of course this makes me question a few things, we have been talking of moving for a while but have unfortunately been stuck in a house that had been underwater (bought it and then the bubble burst). Do we move? My husband is fortunate enough that he can work wherever he wants to but he never moved in his life until he got to college and has definitely never lived outside of Minnesota. I on the other hand had moved every three years until I was in High School. To me moving is exciting and expected. To him moving is scary and doesn’t necessarily need to happen. Plus then there’s the fact that his family is still here. Unfortunately with his family we aren’t as close to them. We don’t see them as often and when we do its usually just a day trip here and there.
Next there is the fact that I’m supposed to be getting a job here this year. This scares me to no end as I have been staying home with our daughter for the past 3 years. It doesn’t help that now I look at my family spread all over and I think of all the vacation days that will be spent visiting family versus doing our own thing or spent on a sick child, or school closed now that we don’t have someone who can come up. I loved staying home with our daughter and am very sad to be thinking about it ending. I look into Homeschooling her as I thoroughly enjoyed doing her preschool at home but there are so many questions about this that make me worried.
So many questions about things lately and nothing being decided. I’m one who has to plan things and knows where things are going to go. Quitting my job to stay home with my daughter was the first thing I did without having a back up. It scared me but was so worthwhile.